About Dr Brenda Shoshanna

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New York, New York, United States
Psychologist,relationship expert and workshop leader, my work is dedicated to helping you release your fears, access your enormous inner resources and be all you are meant to me. The author of many books, including the latest, Fearless: The 7 Principles of Peace of Mind -(www.becomefearless.org) .

FEARLESS; THE 7 PRINCIPLES OF PEACE OF MIND - www.becomefearless.org

It's one thing to understand fear, it's another to know how to dissolve it from your life. Becoming Fearless is a practice, based on the principles of peace of mind. Once this practice is undertaken, it's easy to release fear and become calm, balanced and positive, no matter what is going on.

Contact: Dr. Shoshanna
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(212) 288-0028

www.becomefearless.org


The Practice of Fearlessness


Some think fear keeps them safe, on guard against danger. But the opposite is true. Fear confuses our minds, tells us lies, lowers our immune system and undermines our relationships. There is never a reason to hold onto fear. Being in the grip of fear is like being stung by a serpent.

The first thing to understand is that you can make better judgments, take constructive action and increase your safety when you release fear from your life. There are many steps to take on the path of Becoming Fearless and this blog will be dedicated to sharing them all.

The first step is to know that fear is a liar. When you refuse to believe the false messages it brings you and do not give in to the catastrophic expectaions it creates, fear weakens and backs away.

When fear assaults you with a negative message, stop, look it in the eye and refuse to believe what it's saying. This will take its power away. Fear takes its strength from your belief in it. Once the fear departs, you will be able to see much more clearly exactly what is going on. You do not need fear to be safe. In fact the confusion created by the fear, takes true safety and clarity from you.

Today, when ever you hear a frightening or negative message, stop, refuse it. Feel the fear behind it and tell the fear it can go...Once the fear has subsided you can look at the situation again with new, clear eyes. You will also be strengthened to take whatever constructive action may be called for at that time.

Instead of believing in the power of fear, why not believe in the power of truth?




Becoming Fearless: (Workshop Program) Building Fearless Relationships Your Natural Ability to Live Free of Fear Becoming Fearless During Change and Loss The Disowned Self (Welcoming Him/Her Home)
Dr. Brenda Shoshanna
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Tuesday, December 2, 2008

The Truth About Life's Challenges

The Truth About Life’s Challenges

(Living From Our Inner Wisdom)


“The great gate is open, but travelers seek everywhere”
Eshin

In the midst of our lives, hungry, thirsty and often weary, there comes a moment when we stop and wonder, “Is this all there is? Is there another way to live my life that will bring the joy and contentment that eludes me?”
Caught in the patterns of our lives, each of us has an intuition of something beyond the way we are now living. This something has the power to dispel sorrow and transform our lives into one of wholeness and joy. It has the power to heal division and offer the strength, compassion and refreshment we all desire.

This is what happens as we live from the wisdom within, our true nature, the essence of who we are. Rather than seek to fulfill everyone else’s beliefs and expectations, when we turn within for wisdom and guidance we have a way of seeing things differently. Rather than respond automatically, we are true to ourselves, to our own perception and vision and then have the opportunity arises to look at the world through fresh eyes. As we do this, we can often grow like flowers, planted in the soil of our daily concerns.

This may also be called, living our lives from the inside out, trusting ourselves and our own intuition. As we begin to do this, we develop a new way of knowing and of being in the world. We do not analyze, explain or justify what happens. Rather than try to mold or control our experience, we simply make friends with it, become acquainted, let it instruct us and be our guide.

First Steps

As we embark upon this pathway, there are certain pointers and warnings which are helpful. Some are listed below: As they become part of your daily lives, you will easily and naturally see how your relationships benefit as well.

Pointers and Warnings

Take a deep breath. We are not going anywhere fast. In fact, we are returning – back to our original home. Put down fantasies, hopes, expectations for a moment. Just simply learn to be where you are. Sit still without moving, and take in all that is going on now. Don’t judge it, hate it, push it away. Be with everything, just as it is. Including yourself.

Pointer 1 - Stop Looking For A Quick Fix

A great danger in our lives is looking for a quick fix, believing there are all kinds of wise ones around who have the answers for our lives. That is not the point here. As they say, “Don’t put a head on your head. What’s wrong with your own, anyway?”

Pointer 2 - Give Up Unnecessary Pressure

Most of the time we create all kinds of goals and drive ourselves crazy to reach them. We measure our progress, compare ourselves to others, judge ourselves relentlessly. This is not our way. Here we focus upon each breath, each day, each moment and experience it totally. One complete breath brings the next. This path is made by walking.

Pointer 3 - Go Back To The Beginning

Many are constantly seeking more and more, exploring new territories, ideas, relationships. They then feel they are advancing and gaining ground. However, many rush forward without really knowing where they are going. Once they arrive, they quickly set a new destination and start rushing to it again.

Our way is to return to the beginning. We stop, sit down, look within. We remember where we came from, who we are and where we are headed. We also remember to take care of our simple lives as well as the lives of others along the way.

By returning to our original nature, we remember how to sit, breathe, eat, play and re-claim the excitement, joy and adventure we felt as children, but lost along the way.

“The plum tree of my hut,
It couldn’t be helped,
It bloomed.”