You Can't Step Into The Same River Twice

We all hold onto everything and want to keep things the same. Fear arises if a person changes, a job seems uncertain, or if a relationship begins to shift under our eyes. When change happens we feel like a failure or as if we're having to undergo loss.

But life is nothing but change. It cannot be otherwise. Change is natural, necessary, a force for growth. If a baby did not change, she would never go from crawling to walking, an older child would never go from kindergarden to first grade, a pregnant woman would never deliver her baby. Why do we fear and resist change so? Why do we spend so much energy holding back the natural tides?

To release fear about change, recognize the fleeing nature of life. Make peace with it. Spend time watching changes that take place naturally and embrace the beauty within these changes. See how each change brings something new in its wake.

Make a practice of enjoying change, welcoming it into your life. If you notice catastrophic expectations cropping up, say no to them. Focus on whatever life is giving, and say thank you for it.

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Dr. Brenda Shoshanna
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How To Calm Down

No matter what is happening around us, it is never necessary to become trapped in feelings of fear. We are not the victims of the world we see. We can stop our automatic reactions; there are simple steps to take which can easily turn our state of mind around. Fear can easily become addictive. The longer we hold onto it, the more real it can seem, and the harder it becomes to take actions which are constructive and appropriate. The steps offered in this article are simple, but powerful. The more we practice them the stronger we become.

Tap Into Your Fundamental Strength

There is a wonderful saying,“Open the treasure house within.” This reminds us that we are all endowed with many resources that we’re not aware of, and do not use in our lives. In order to get in touch with these innate abilities, we must stop depending upon others to solve our problems for us. We must also give up blaming others, and turn within. As soon as we start to take responsibility for what’s happening and for the way we are responding it, we begin to tap into our fundamental strength.

Pay Attention

We are what we think about. When we stay fixed on one person, thought or situation, we become caught in the grip of that situation. The more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives. This can be counteracted easily.

Take back your focus and attention. The power of focus is the power of life. Spend time each day developing focus and concentration. Withdraw yourself from the chaotic world for a period of time each day, and invite your attention back within. Sit with a straight back, do not move and pay full attention to your breath. Let random thoughts come and go. Do not suppress them, but do not let them grab your attention away. (At first you may be besieged by many surprising thoughts and feelings, but if you simply notice them and then return your attention to your breathing, these will soon die down). Count your breath from one to ten, then all over again. Do this for at least ten to fifteen minutes without moving. By doing this you are stopping what is called the monkey mind. You are also pulling the plug on fear.

Stop The Monkey Mind

The monkey mind is the mind that jumps from one thing to the next, fears, demands, grabs and sabotages our lives. It is this part of ourselves which causes sorrow and fear. But it cannot take over our lives, when we take charge of our focus. By meditating daily, we not only take the steam away from the monkey mind, strengthen parts of ourselves which can guide and lead us in a new direction. Before long we begin to experience calm, balance and well-being, no matter what’s going on.

Find A New Perspective

This wonderful time spent with oneself is a way to discover a new perspective, become able to see clearly and put the situation in a larger context. The new perspective becomes a fortification against many of life’s storms. By turning within, we develop a place we can always return to, for wisdom, strength and comfort. When we allow people and events to upset and consume us, we are inviting trouble, giving our precious, inner treasure away.

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Dr. Brenda Shoshanna
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Mistakes Are Your Friend

Of course we'll all be fearful and live with constriction when we're so afraid of making mistakes. But, there's nothing wrong with making mistakes. Mistakes are natural, inevitable, part of the process of growth and learning. You can't get up if you don't fall down. A child would never walk if they were afraid of falling. When we take action, we always learn. Whatever happens is our teacher. Why call it a mistake? Perhaps it was an unexpected outcome? Okay. There's even more to learn and discover from an unexpected result. Why do we punish ourselves for that? Who labels it a mistake? Instead, we might just say, we did something and something happened..now we'll do something else. You can't move forward if you fear failure, fear making mistakes. Why don't we turn it around and say, it's good to make a mistake. It means I've taken a chance. I've stood up my fear and become stronger than it.

www.becomefearless.org
Dr. Brenda Shoshanna
topspeaker@yahoo.com